Do you ever have one of those days where you're just not feeling social? Today was one of those days. I went to a friend's wedding that was absolutely beautiful, but it was a smaller wedding where I didn't know anyone other than my husband (obviously!), the bride and groom, and a few members of the wedding party. And as much as I felt like I should socialize with the other guests because that's the polite thing to do, I just couldn't bring myself to do it. I figured 1) I'm here to support my friend who is getting married and that's the most important thing. 2) I'm probably not going to see any of the guests that I don't already know again. 3) I'd rather talk to my husband than anyone else because I'm more comfortable with him than anyone else.
So you know what? I didn't talk to anyone else. Obviously I congratulated the bride and groom and chatted with the girls in the wedding party, but, other than that, I gave myself permission to not be social. Normally, I would put a lot of pressure on myself to socialize, but the simple act of giving myself permission to do what I felt like instead of what I felt like I should be doing was wonderful!
It reminds me of something a friend said to me once: That there is no should. Think about it for a second. It's so simple, but so freeing. Whenever I remember that saying, it reminds me that it's okay for me to ignore the shoulds that I place on myself and to take that pressure off of myself.